Preparing for family pictures with young children doesn't have to be stressful. Discover 10 simple tips to help your kids feel comfortable, happy, and ready for beautiful family photos with Jen Verbeck Photography.
How to Prepare Kids for Family Photos: 10 Simple Tips for Stress-Free Smiles
Family photo day is exciting—but if you're a parent, it can also come with a few worries.
"What if my toddler won't sit still?"
"What if my kids refuse to smile?"
"What if everything falls apart before we even get there?"
If you've ever had those thoughts, you're definitely not alone.
The good news is that family sessions don't have to be perfect to create beautiful memories. Some of my favorite images come from genuine laughter, playful moments, and the little personalities that make your family unique.
As a photographer—and as a mom of three—I know that children have their own schedules, emotions, and energy levels. My goal isn't to force perfect smiles. It's to create a relaxed environment where your family can simply enjoy being together.
Here are a few simple ways to help your family session go as smoothly as possible.
STEP 01
Talk About the Session in a Positive Way
A few days before your session, let your kids know you're going on a fun family adventure.
Instead of saying:
"You have to behave for pictures."
Try saying:
"We're going to spend some time together, play a few games, and take some fun family pictures!"
Children often mirror our emotions. If you're excited, they'll usually be excited too.
STEP 02
Avoid Scheduling During Nap Time
If you have young children, try to schedule your session around their normal routine.
A well-rested child is much more likely to enjoy the experience than one who's tired or ready for bed.
Sometimes sunset sessions are worth adjusting nap time just a little if possible.
STEP 03
Feed Everyone Before the Session
Hungry kids (and hungry DADS!) rarely enjoy having their pictures taken.
Plan a meal or snack before you arrive so everyone starts the session feeling happy and comfortable.
STEP 04
Bring a Few Small Snacks
Even with a full meal beforehand, little ones sometimes need a quick break.
Some great options include:
-Crackers
-Fruit snacks
-Mini marshmallows
-Dry cereal
Try to avoid brightly colored candy or chocolate that could stain clothes or leave colorful smiles.
STEP 05
Let Kids Be Kids
One of the biggest misconceptions about family photography is that children need to sit perfectly still and smile at the camera the entire time.
They don't.
Running, laughing, cuddling, exploring, and even the occasional silly face often create the most meaningful photographs.
Those authentic moments tell your family's story.
STEP 06
Don't Worry About Perfect Smiles
Some children smile big.
Some grin with their whole face.
Others are naturally shy.
Every child expresses happiness differently, and that's perfectly okay.
Rather than chasing perfect smiles, I focus on genuine connection between family members.
Those are the images families treasure for years to come.
STEP 07
Keep Expectations Realistic
Young children simply aren't built to stand still for an hour.
That's why my sessions are relaxed and flexible.
We'll move around, play games, explore, and take plenty of breaks when needed.
The less pressure everyone feels, the more natural your photos become.
STEP 08
Dress for Comfort
Choose outfits that look beautiful but also allow your children to move comfortably.
If they're constantly tugging on itchy sweaters or uncomfortable shoes, it'll show.
Comfortable kids are happy kids.
STEP 09
Trust the Process
Parents often apologize when their child isn't cooperating.
Please don't.
I've photographed children of all ages and personalities, and I've learned that sometimes the best photos happen in between the "planned" poses.
We'll take our time and work at your child's pace.
STEP 10
Focus on Making Memories
Years from now, your children probably won't remember exactly what they wore.
They'll remember laughing with mom.
Holding dad's hand.
Running through a field.
Being wrapped in a family hug.
Those are the moments I hope to capture.
A Little Encouragement
If you've been putting off family pictures because you're worried your kids won't cooperate, I want to encourage you to book them anyway.
Children grow and change so quickly, and every stage deserves to be remembered—even the messy, energetic, wonderfully imperfect ones.
Some of my favorite images have come from little giggles, spontaneous hugs, and the unexpected moments that couldn't have been planned.
Those genuine connections are what make your family's story uniquely yours.
Ready to Capture This Season of Life?
Whether your children are toddlers, teenagers, or somewhere in between, I'd love to help create a relaxed and enjoyable experience that results in timeless images you'll treasure for years to come.
If you're ready to plan your next family session, I'd love to hear from you. Together, we'll create photographs that celebrate your family just as you are.